Hello Lovely! In one of my Bible study groups we’ve been talking a lot about who we’d like to be in the future. Trying to picture it like a two screen picture on the television, one being the main screen and the other being the tiny second picture in the corner. The main picture is what your current life looks like and the tiny picture is typically what you would like your future life to be someday. Your future life is off to the side and not your priority right now. The big question is how do we make our future life the main screen, how do we make that our current life? Honestly, I feel like it’s a loaded question but it does make you think how can I live the life I want right now? For whatever reason its been on my heart a lot lately, I’ve been reading and thinking on how to be more in the moment. I want to be present everyday and enjoy today. How much of my life have I wasted waiting on that next step to make me happy? I wanted to move away from the city to be closer to the beach, I wanted a bigger house to entertain in, I wanted a nicer yard to spend time outside, and I wanted a baby. I wanted a baby so bad but for so long it wasn’t the right time. I actually wrote most of those things on a list 2 or 3 years ago as goals. I’m happy to report I have all of those things but you want to know the embarrassing part? I still catch my self thinking, “I’ll be happy when…”. In so many times of our lives we’re just trying to get by and in turn we miss out on so much.
I moved away from the city and less than an hours drive from the beach. I could count on my hands how many times we’ve made the drive in the past year and a half. Always planning for the next weekend that we’ll have more time.
I have a bigger house, but because we moved away from so many friends I haven’t done much entertaining. Moving to a place and starting over also means having to make new friendships. It takes time to find the kind of friends we had before and more than that it takes time to build those friendships.
I do have a nice yard, it’s not huge but it’s unbelievably bigger than our old yard. I keep thinking we can get some chairs or something to rock on the porch and sip our coffee in the mornings. The reality is Little Bit wakes up around 5:20 when her Daddy does, I get her in our bed to nurse and we usually sleep until Delaney decides it’s time we both need to get up. All this to say, there is no getting up and having coffee alone when 5:20 is the cut off for that indulgence.
In all of this studying lately I’ve been really thinking about the core things that do make me happy. I’d encourage anyone to do the same but I’ll share a few of mine:
- My sweet Delaney’s laugh, oh there isn’t a sweeter sound in the world
- A good homemade mac and cheese bubbling hot from the oven
- Sitting on the beach and reading a good book
- Beef braised slowly in red wine
- Sipping a strong cup of hot coffee
- Spending some quality time in the Word before bed
- Late night post bedtime chats with James
- Gathering around the table with good food, great friends, and family as often as I can
When I made this list the funniest or saddest thing about it is I knew I could do most of these at least once a week. Some of that list I could fit in daily if I just tried. A few weeks ago I started to change things. In my last post I spoke about really figuring out who I am as a new mom, in a new role, and in a new place. Regardless of all of those things it comes back to me living the life I had hoped for. Why do we always continue to wish for that next step, I’ll be happy when…? It seems so silly all spelled out so maybe it’s as simple as some small changes everyday. I’ve checked my phone less, I haven’t been the most up to date on Facebook postings, the TV has been turned off at our house, and we’ve fallen behind on binge watching Downton Abbey. I should also mention with these changes, my dishes have set in the sink a little longer and the laundry pile in my bedroom is stacked a little higher than I’d prefer. Everything will get done eventually and it’s got to be ok to put those things off just a little. Back to the death-bed thought process, which would you like to look back and think about how you spent your time? Would you like to think I had a well-kept house or on a lot of days I took an extra five minutes to play in the floor a little longer with my little girl? So maybe everything is not where you thought it would be at this point in your life or even just at this point of your week. I’d like to invite you to try this out with me and take a step back to look at the bigger picture instead of the right now picture. If we can keep our focus on the bigger picture I’m thinking it might make all the difference and I think that’s worth trying!
In the past few weeks I’ve walked on the beach with some of my favorite people, we’ve had new friends gather around our table, I’ve even done yoga while James does Delaney’s bedtime, and my Saturday morning coffee has been savored and sipped while its hot. I’ve stayed up and risked sleep deprivation to spend a little more time one on one time with James. During that time we’ve read our bibles together, even if it’s just half a chapter before we drift off. We’ve sat on our porch, I on the swing and Delaney in her diaper playing with a pile of uncooked oatmeal. Oh and I have heard my Delaney’s laugh like I feel I’ve never heard it before. It hasn’t been everyday but it’s taking baby steps to change my life. I don’t want to wish away time but to soak up every messy moment of it to the best I am able.
Passionate gather of people, I see that title as a key piece of who I like to think I am and definitely who I’d like to be. I’ve used the past few weeks to really makes some strides in that direction. Having friends for dinner we’ve been meaning to invite for months. One family at a time and then this week finally getting a bunco group started. Many of the friends I miss so much in Houston became more solidified during our monthly bunco nights. To the outside world it’s just a dice game, but to us it meant a lot more. It was seeing friends you only see that once a month, a night away off from making dinner, a night free of kiddos and bath time duties. We’d catch up and laugh… oh there is always lots of laughing and eating of course. I don’t plan many activities that don’t involve eating.
This past week was the first meeting of the bunco group I’ve helped get started here in Alabama. We’ve sent messages for weeks getting the group all set up and each month for the next year all accounted for by a different friend hosting. It was so much fun to have a sweet friend co-host, having good friends over, and meeting some new friends that are in the group as well ;)!
If you’ve been following along, you know I’ve wanted to find ways that I can host people (gather people) at our house more often. A part of that is finding ways I can make it seem festive without spending a fortune since I want to turn right back around and do it again soon :)!
To get the look for this Galentine’s themed Bunco Night here’s the low down:
- Raid the Target dollar spot! Fun printed straws, votive holders, glitter pendant banners, what else do you need to make a party feel festive?!
- Conversation hearts, these are super cheap and so pretty! I may not be able to handle the chalky taste but in some cheap clear vases they look perfect!
- Confetti and lots of it! I found a couple different kinds on sale at Michael’s that I absolutely loved!
- Paper Flowers, I found a DIY like this one (here) years ago and I have reused those same ones a ridiculous number of times
Oh and to take the pressure off of having to feed every one, we had each person bring a dish they LOVE (pun intended)! Needless to say there was again some good food and great company!